Are We Saving Too Much? What Three Generations Can Teach Us About Money
I talk quite a bit about market strategy and investing, but I’m also meeting with clients on a regular basis and lately, I’ve started noticing something that sounds completely counterintuitive to almost everything we’re taught about money:
Are we saving too much?
Forget the so-called “experts” on TikTok pushing the latest scheme or telling you exactly what you should be doing with your money. These are conversations I’m having with real people every day, backed by almost 25 years of actually doing this, and I’m starting to think the answer, at least for some people, might be yes.
For most of my career as an advisor, the message around money has been pretty straightforward: Save more, spend less, invest for the future…and generally speaking, that's good advice. But after working with families across multiple generations, I’m not sure it’s that simple. I now see three very different relationships with money.
The older generation spent much of its life saving and, and a lot of times, now has difficulty giving itself permission to spend. The generation in the middle (mine) is in the heart of its peak earning and saving years, constantly worried about whether it’s putting enough away for retirement. And the youngest generation seems more willing to spend money today - particularly on experiences - even if that means saving less for tomorrow. So who's right?
Maybe all three of them, and maybe all three can learn something from the others.
The Older Generation: "We Might Need It Someday"
One of the more interesting things we see as financial advisors is that turning a saver into a spender can be surprisingly difficult. Think about the habits someone develops over 40 years. Work, save, invest, don't touch the principal, repeat. Then one day they retire and we're essentially telling them "Okay. Now start spending it."That's a major psychological adjustment.
I looked for data on this and here goes…Vanguard found something similar with retirement withdrawal behavior. Roughly one in four didn't touch their retirement savings at all during the five years after leaving their employer. On top of that historical market testing by Vanguard shows a retiree using the 4% rule (essentially the hypothetical idea that you never touch principal) finishes retirement with two to three times their starting wealth. Note, I’m not advocating against the 4% withdrawal rule, it’s my normal “back of napkin” discussion with pre-retirees. But, they are mathematically far more likely to die with an accidental surplus than to deplete their capital. There are perfectly rational reasons.
People don't know how long they'll live. They're worried about healthcare. They want to remain in their homes. They want to leave something to their children.
But there's another explanation that is harder to quantify…after spending your entire life being rewarded for saving money, spending it can feel like you're doing something wrong. And that's where financial planning can become less about maximizing a portfolio and more about giving someone permission to enjoy what they've built.
The Middle Generation: "Are We Saving Enough?"
Then there's the generation in the middle…under pressure and doing A LOT. They're paying mortgages, funding college, helping children get started, maybe helping aging parents. They're maximizing 401(k)s, funding IRAs, investing in brokerage accounts and constantly running retirement projections. And despite all that saving, many still don't feel like they're doing enough.
For some households that worry is justified. Millions of Americans genuinely need to save more for retirement…but that's not everyone. There is another group, particularly among higher income households, that may eventually discover that the retirement problem they spent 30 years worrying about never actually materialized. This is where eventually the financial planning conversation changes from "Will I have enough?" to "What are we going to do with all of this?”. I’ve watched this firsthand many times.
The Great Wealth Transfer Tells Part of the Story
Cerulli Associates estimates that approximately $124 trillion of wealth will transfer through 2048, including roughly $105 trillion going to heirs and $18 trillion going to charities. Nearly $100 trillion of the total is expected to come from Baby Boomers and older generations. Obviously, leaving money to children, grandchildren or charity can be a wonderful goal. But that enormous transfer also raises an interesting question.
How much of that wealth represents money intentionally accumulated for future generations…and how much represents money people simply never became comfortable spending?
There's an important distinction. If your goal is to leave $2 million to your children, that's estate planning. If you end up leaving $2 million because you were afraid to take the vacations, buy the lake house, help your kids earlier or enjoy retirement despite having more than enough resources, that's something different. You may have simply oversaved.
The Younger Generation: "I'd Rather Have the Experience"
Then we get to Gen Z, and their approach to money can look almost backward to older generations. They seem much more willing to spend today, particularly on experiences and things they can enjoy now. Building a big investment account or accumulating “things” doesn’t always carry the same appeal. But there’s obviously another side to this. You still have to save enough to give yourself options later.
Bank of America research from 2025 found that 55% of Gen Z didn’t have enough emergency savings to cover three months of expenses. Only 25% had contributed to a retirement account during the previous year, and just 21% had invested in the stock market. Their actual customer data showed Gen Z’s spending to savings ratio was 1.93, meaning average spending was nearly twice the amount held in savings.
So while I think younger generations may understand something important about actually enjoying the money they earn, there’s a balance.
So Who has It Right?
There's nothing wrong with leaving a legacy but there is something worth thinking about if we spend the first half of our financial lives worrying about accumulating money and the second half worrying about how to give away the money we were afraid to spend.
So my answer…probably none of them completely.
The older generation understands security, the middle generation understands accumulation, and the younger generation may understand experiences better than either of them. The ideal financial life probably borrows something from all three.
Once the math tells you you're okay, give yourself permission to use some of the money. Take the trip while you're healthy enough to enjoy it. Help your children when the money can actually change their lives rather than waiting until they're 60 to inherit it. Buy something you've always wanted. Create memories with your family. Give to organizations you care about while you're alive to see the impact. And yes, leave something behind if that's important to you.
The purpose of financial planning shouldn't be to die with the largest possible account balance. It should be to use the resources you've accumulated to create the life and legacy you actually want. Maybe the real financial goal isn't maximizing wealth…it's reaching the end and realizing you saved enough for tomorrow without forgetting to live today.
There’s no right answer, but my job is to manage this delicate balance and these are just some things I’ve been thinking about after thousands of conversations and decades in this business.
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